Everyone’s talking about you behind your back. Your friends can’t agree on anything and constantly argue at lunchtime. And the peer pressure?

You can’t even start with that. Your life is starting to be the real life Gossip Girl show. School drama is unavoidable, I mean you are stuck with the same people for seven hours most days for nine months but that doesn’t mean it has to break you. Here’s how to rise above it because there is something always going on.

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Fewer Real Friends Are Better Than A Lot Of Fake Ones

I know what it’s like to be in this situation. If you find yourself drained after spending time with your “friends” or if they always talk behind your back, they are not the people for you. It may seem scary to leave because you are afraid to be alone, but being alone is better than being put down.

You deserve friends you can count on, friends who will be there for you when you need someone to talk to, people who will not exclude you and who love you as if you were both blood-related.

You shouldn’t try to force friendships, either. If you don’t click together, you simply don’t click. It does not matter how hard you try (I learned this the hard way). You should find the people you feel you can be yourself with and make you feel happy after talking with them.

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Join In! Be Present!

A recent survey found that 60% of high school students are engaged. Only 52% said they enjoy coming to school. You should want to be in 52% percent.

School isn’t as serious as we make ourselves think. You are only in high school, middle school, and college once. Do you really want to look back in your life and think, I wish I joined in more?

Please don’t waste your high school years doing activities for some college you may not get into. Imagine this: you spent years in school doing things you didn’t like because you thought an Ivy League College would be impressed. But you may not even get into it.

This is not to encourage your dreams (you can do it!) but to do things for you. Don’t spend years of your life excessively studying when you have been studying for that test for two weeks; go to that football game with your friends! Or if none of your friends are going, still go by yourself and learn that it's fun to be alone too.

Time Management

School isn’t as hard as you think it is. You think that because right after school, you do your clubs or sports, and then when you finally get home, you scroll.

You look at the clock: 11:00 PM. You still haven’t done anything, and you know you have to rush now. I used to be the type of procrastinator who would outwork myself so much that I would fall asleep with the lights on (and still sometimes did not finish the work).

Despite what others think, you want to improve. How do I know this? You took time to read this article because you want to change.

And that's already one step toward that. When you get home from school, don't make a beeline to your phone. Finish your homework and study, and then you have the rest of the day to do you. Trust me, it will feel much more rewarding.

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Gossip Always Happens

I won't lie to you because you can be in the most positive place in the world. However, gossip will find a way into your life. It hurts to be talked about behind your back, especially by someone you know.

That being said, don't fight fire with fire. It creates the same harm as gossiping behind their backs. They took time out of their day to talk back about you because they were jealous.

Don't go down their level and just ignore them. Though it is not all forgive and forget because you should never be in a position of being friends with them, the best revenge is to live your best life, unaffected by whatever they are saying about you.

Peer Pressure Happens To All Of Us

You may think, "Well, it didn't happen to me." I can guarantee it has. Have you ever done something like a trend or sport or done something you felt like you had to do to fit in? Well, that's peer pressure.

The best counter is to stay true to yourself because that's all you can do in life. Don't hide the parts you are “embarrassed” of because you aren't living if you care what everyone thinks. Someone is always feeling something negative about you, which is out of control. What you can control is if you decide to let them and their words affect you.

Trends are always coming, but in the end, you should be able to look at yourself and know that you are living your life on your terms, not anybody elses.

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Be You!

There is no ultimate cure to make all the drama in your life dissapear. Or an ultimate to-do-list that specifically explains how to live your best live. There are other millions of people in Earth but nobody is like you. You get to pave your pathway and I honestly believe that is what make life worth living.