Have you ever felt that you might have a crush on someone but you are still bemused about whether your feeling is true or not, whether it is just a temporary flutter? Well, if the answer is yes, this article is definitely for you. And if you start to have those signs below, without hesitation: go for it, since you are truly falling in love.
1. Forgetting your priorities & Always in your thoughts
"If you’re rearranging, reprioritizing, and reimagining your life, you may fall in love". Yes, it is the time when you always think about them first, regardless of what the matters are. For instance, if you see a cute teddy, then you immediately think that your crush would certainly like it too.
Or you simply start to change some of your daily habits to spend more time with them, to be together with them, to shine every single moment: make each moment more precious than anything else. Forgetting your priorities also means always carefully listening to whatever the other person says, remembering the smallest details or stories they tell you.
It is a sign of you falling in love when you realize how often you think about them. Saying this is silly, but for me, it just happens suddenly when I think about 'him' in the middle of the school day before I go to sleep or even on our next date. I feel happy and unintentionally laugh whenever I re-read his messages, stare at his shadow from the back, and view his photo over and over again.
2. Can't help Smiling
Don't hesitate so long to ask your crush out if you have learned that you can't help randomly smiling whenever you meet them, have normal conversations, or throw back your 'lovely' memories with them. I dare to say, you will find out that smiling at your crush is uncontrollable. In another phase, it is a natural flex.
I smile when seeing him walking, I smile when staring at him from far. I smile when watching him playing soccer and all of it, ultimately made my day.
3. Dying to share everything
You just wait for the time to be free from work, free from school to see them, to tell them your stories. Seeing them after the ' worn out' times is like most things you look forward to doing in your absolute normal days.
Dr. Robert J. Sternberg said love can be identified by three main aspects: intimacy (the desire to feel closely connected), passion (physical and emotional stimulation), and decision/commitment (the resolve to stick together).
At that time, I desired to share everything with him, even the most trivial matters, including my sorrowfulness and also, of course, my happiness. I wished I could be the shoulders that he cried on, the hand that he held in fear and the healer for his scars. I thought that I was dulcet to be there any time he needed to share his world.
4. Time flies when you're with them.
I guess all of us have experienced this kind of feeling before, like when we have fun, time flies. Unlike sitting in a boring class or doing repetitive work, we neither 'give a dam' about what time it is nor how long it takes to finish. Eventually, we are just gonna end up with a weird dumb question: " Is time already?" and also a feeling of 'too attached' that you even wish time could freeze right at that delighted moment.
When I'm with you, hours feel like seconds. When we're apart, days feel like years.
P/s: every time you smile, every time you blink your eyes, every time you look at me, I hated that those moments couldn't last forever.
5. The Determinant: It feels right
Well, at this point, you begin to understand or even learn to treasure their flaws, since those flaws are merely nothing compared to what they have done so far, which has made your heart flutter. It feels right whenever you are with them, even on stormy and gloomy days.
Actually, there is neither an accurate checklist showing that you are in love nor a permanent rule of how long it takes to fall in love because love cannot be defined by any means. We can only use clusters of words to vaguely describe it: passionate, complicated, crazy, and, yes, real. Some know they're ' the one' from a single moment, from first sight - a miracle. But others might take months and even years of small steps to develop the feeling, so don't ever hesitate too much. As long as you feel right when you are with them, go with the flow until you are ready to say the three words.
Hmm, I have never said anything or showed any signs. I should have said or done something rather than that, I know: sad, but I chose to act like that 'cause I was aware he was not the right one, though I did like him... And if you are reading this, thank you, thanks for having been there.