Why Communication Is More Important Than You Think

Wellness

It is hard to trust people and open up. Being vulnerable is scary. It is said that communication is key but there's also so much more to this common saying.

Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity. Every single disagreement can be fixed if both parties communicate clearly. It’s easier said than done. Pride, arrogance and confidence come into play and things can get messy. In the short term, you’ll have the satisfaction of having won an argument. And yes you won, but at what cost? Was it worth risking the friendship just to prove your point? In the long run, regrets turn into haunting reminders. But with proper communication, you can keep your relationships healthy and strong.

Great communication begins with connection.

Feeling connected with a person is not entirely something you can control. But there are ways to start feeling connected. Explore interests, find common ground and discuss opinions. When initially becoming acquainted with a person, it is not wise to talk about difference in opinions. Instead focus on what you have in common. Talk about hobbies, about interests, about skills about likes and dislikes. We are all different in our opinions and have different perspectives of the world. Coming off as too headstrong about your opinions could end poorly. To truly connect with a person, you need time. You need to talk. Sometimes, you will feel distant, but at the end of day, with proper communication you can always figure things out.

The most important part of communication is hearing what wasn’t said.

Communication is more than just words that are said to fill the silence. To be able to understand the meaning of what was said, understand that the emotion and the reason behind the words is where communication really lies. We often listen to respond. It is far more crucial to listen to someone for the sake of listening itself. Listen to understand, not to reply. Listening is just as important as talking.

Words are the most powerful drugs used by mankind.

It is important to use these words wisely. It is important to speak because you have something to say, and not because you have to say something. What you say must improve the silence. Words have power. Immense power that is beyond our imagination. The words you say could make someone’s day, give them hope, make them smile and pass on the kindness. Words can also have devastating outcomes. They can hurt. Words can cause wounds that will bleed, but not show. Be mindful of what you say.

You should probably be honest.

It is often said that communication must be honest, but sometimes the truth hurts more than a white lie. Does that mean you hold back? The answer is unfortunately no. Regardless of how bad the truth is, lying is worse. Being honest goes beyond just speaking the truth. You have to mean what you say. Not mentioning something is not technically lying, but considering that it involves holding information back, it counts as not being honest. Being honest is hard. It is difficult to face things for what they are but reality is what it is. Honest communication is important.

It is only through communication that human life has meaning. And the only way to get better at communication is to actually do it.

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Nikhita Makam

Nikhita Makam is a high school student by day and programming poet by night. She is author of "14 works by a 14 year old" and a writer for The Teen Magazine. Nikhita spends her time writing, reading, watching dog videos, gardening and battling the common enemy to all high school students: homework.


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