Over the past few months, I completed multiple psychology certifications that deepened my understanding of human behaviour and the mind. From cognitive psychology to developmental and social dynamics, each course offered new insights into why people think, feel, and act the way they do. I explored topics like motivation, emotional regulation, personality theories, and mental health frameworks.

Beyond the academic content, these certifications strengthened my analytical skills and shaped the way I observe everyday interactions. This journey not only expanded my knowledge but also reinforced my passion for psychology as a field that connects theory to real life.

Here are 3 of the many things that I learnt about human behaviour:

1. The 'Myself' Factor:

What is the first instinct that pops up in your head when you meet someone new? Maybe it is a desire to make yourself seem nice, smart, or a trait you want to show. That's where you're already losing points.

While it is a natural human tendency to want to express oneself, people are more drawn to those who are interested in knowing more about them. When you're able to let others talk about themselves and listen enthusiastically, you're stepping up your social game. It may not seem so, but others remember you as a positive person, a person they want around.

Yes, talk about yourself, but more importantly, satisfy the craving of wanting to be heard by others. Also, don't fake enthusiasm; everyone can feel that from miles away.

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2. Lack of Realization:

People don't know what they're doing. No, I'm not saying this in the context you're assuming. A lot of individuals unconsciously react or behave in a way they never imagined they would. They have no control over themselves in the moment and end up acting beyond themselves.

This is different from having a split personality or bipolar disorder. These are much milder reactions. Shouting in anger, zoning out, and ghosting everyone are a few examples.

This generally happens due to trauma, a fraction of shock, or other possible triggers, but the realization strikes later, not in the moment. This might've happened to you. You might've ignored it, thinking of social exhaustion or tiredness.

Understanding these moments of lost control reminds us to approach others and ourselves with patience and compassion, recognizing that not all actions are fully conscious.

3. The Child In Us:

A major chunk of the way you behave is derived from your childhood. Lots of us end up becoming the person we needed when we were younger. Think of it, what was something you needed in your childhood, emotionally?

Reflect on it. Do you somehow try to fulfil that part for others? Maybe. You might not realize it, but that's how we are wired.

The inner child in us is always looking for ways to heal, and one of them can be providing what you needed to others.

Be proud of yourself, you are healing and also growing emotionally. Get to know yourself more, and you might have answers to questions you never thought you had.

Conclusion:

To sum it all up, human behaviour is much more complex than what we deal with in real life. Every small aspect we encounter is linked to a bigger story. A little understanding towards others goes a long way.

If you want to learn more about psychology, one of the best ways to deep dive into human behavior is by reading books, and podcasts also provide a convenient option.