How can we become the best version of ourselves? We can learn, grow, fail, try, we can do many things in order to become our best selves. We stop ourselves from growing maybe because we're scared or embarrassed. We stop ourselves from growing because we focus too much on what others think. Here are 10 things that you can do to become the best version of yourself possible.
1. Don't Compare Yourself To Others
One of the biggest things that I believe could stunt your growth and your mindset is comparing yourself to others. The standards and expectations of today are so high, and I hate that everyone thinks and believes that they have to be just like everyone else. You have your own style, your own way of doing things. Everyone is made differently, not one person is designed to act the same. I can't stress this enough; comparing yourself to others hurts you in so many ways. Everyone has compared themselves to their friends at one point or another, and it doesn't feel great. You will not become the best version of yourself if you keep comparing yourself to others. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you, and I don't see why we keep comparing ourselves to the influencers and people of today. I've compared myself to my friends, you begin to feel empty and not good enough. You feel that you don't belong, and you just don't fit in. The only way that you can become a better person and feel good, is by feeling good about yourself. Natural beauty comes from within.
2. Confidence Is Key
Be confident. Be confident in who you are, what you wear, what you represent. Be confident in your uniqueness, your differences, your flaws. Embrace your quirky personality, your wild hair, big eyes, long neck, and prominent nose. Embrace all that you are because there is no one out there like you. Wear that outfit that you've been contemplating in your closet. Choose those heels that you believe make your feet look swollen because they don't to everyone else. Once you start learning to love yourself, you gain so much more confidence, you walk with pride, head held high. Your smile seems brighter, you begin to laugh more, and you become less afraid and worried about how others view you. When you feel down, start being positive. Start saying yes. Yes, I feel confident in what I'm wearing; yes, I feel confident in who I am. When you embrace all that you are, you begin to change how you view yourself, you start changing your mindset. Once you're confident, it shows. Others start seeing that confidence in you. Then it becomes just a never-ending cycle of kindness. People start to notice you more, giving compliments, and that boosts your mood. You become your best self when you're confident and smiling.
3. There's No Shame In Asking For Help
Sometimes, we act like everything is "fine" and "okay", but in reality, it's far from that. Ask for help because, trust me, everyone has felt that same way at one point in their life. Confused? Ask for clarification. Why do we feel so much shame when asking for help? Others have gone through the same things, even much worse things than you believe. Everyone has fallen, and yes, it's embarrassing at times. But who cares? Everyone has gone through it. We have grown up in a world where so many people are accepted for their differences, there should be no shame in asking for help. No one should go through tough times alone. I encourage you to reach out to someone if you ever need help.
4. Crying Is Good
I understand that it sounds weird, but crying is good for you mentally, emotionally, and physically. It feels so overwhelming to keep everything inside, so much so that it becomes too much to handle, that you just cry and break down. This is totally okay, in fact, it's good. Sometimes, we just need to let it out, and that's okay. Breakdowns need to happen in order to build yourself back up again. The best thing you can do for your mental state is to make sure that you take care of yourself. If that means crying, then so be it. You can't expect yourself to always be okay and in a great state of mind. There will be days when it feels like it will never get better or easier. But, it is also on those days when you need to step back and reassess. Take time to breathe, look around, and see where you are. Know, hope, and believe that it'll get better, it will become easier. Collect your thoughts, reassess your situation, make changes, and move on. Pick yourself up, remember who you were and where you were at your lowest points. That's how you become a better, stronger you.
5. Get Out of The Comfort Zone
To improve yourself, you must try new things. You never want to look back and realize that you're the same person as you were before. Trying new things can sometimes change your mindset. You can be a better you and improve on who you were by trying new things. When you stay in your comfort zone, you stay in the same mindset. You can't improve yourself if you stay in the same place. I've always had a problem with going out of my comfort zone. I've realized that if I keep staying in my comfort zone I'll always have the same mindset of being shy and timid. I'll show judgment towards things I've never tried and people I've never met. Getting out of your comfort zone will help improve the way you think while also changing the way you go about trying new things.
6. It'll Happen When It Happens
Don't worry about what is to come, it's not worth your time. What happens will happen when it's meant to happen. You can't always expect the unexpected in life, and you can't always prepare for it. Sometimes, life catches you by surprise. When things don't go according to plan, it can easily become overwhelming to figure out the next step. Do not sweat the little things of life, it's not worth your energy. At times, it's just easier if you don't care about unimportant things. You can't always prepare your mind for failure, success, or even what-ifs. Life is full of surprises, some are good while others can be life-changing. Patience is key when changing your mindset. You have to wait and be patient for important life-changing decisions. For now, we just live in the moment.
7. Let Things Go
You can't live life holding every thought and feeling you've ever thought or felt inside. It's not healthy, and it doesn't improve you as a person. You don't become a better version of yourself when you hold grudges and feel deep feelings that cause a heaviness inside. Some things just need to be let go of. We should learn from what we think and feel because we become better people because of it. Sometimes, the heaviest of things weigh down on us, and it prevents us from moving forward. It stops us from seeing hope and the light at the end. You will come to a point in your life where all the heaviness is too much to handle, and you'll finally be able to say, "I can't take this anymore. I need to let go." Let go of the judgment, the anxieties, the guilt, sorrow, hurt, hate, anger, let go of the past. You need to focus on the now in order to become the best version of yourself that you can be. Because when all of this is over, will you focus on how you felt, or who you became because of it?
8. Don't Be Afraid To Express
Don't ever be sorry for expressing how you think, feel, say, or do. I'd rather express what I truly mean and feel rather than keep it hidden inside. I regret not expressing how I felt to a friend or person I met during that time. You shouldn't need to hide what you want or feel like expressing. Express what you think and feel at that moment that you think and feel it. Express your concerns and your worries. How can you become the best version of yourself if you don't feel like you can truly express how you feel or who you are? Everyone should be able to express themselves without feeling restricted and unsafe. Change the way you think about people and new experiences. By expressing how you think and feel, you are able to change the way you perceive things, eventually becoming the best version of you that you can be.
9. Healing Takes Time
We are supposed to change, and grow, and learn. We are supposed to heal from what tears and rips us apart. We are supposed to grow from learning and trying new things. May we not forget where we came from as we heal, change, and grow. We must feel what we need to feel in order to know and understand those familiar feelings. That is the only way we can grow and learn to be different, but better people. Healing, learning, and growing is a process. Learning to let go and heal from something traumatic is a long process. Sometimes, you don't give yourself enough credit. How strong you are to go through everything you went through, and still be able to pull through.
Sometimes, to have a good time, you must enjoy the time and moments you have. I challenge you to laugh and smile more. To appreciate what and who we have around us. To experience the good and bad, the horrible and ugly. When we experience and really know what it's like to feel these things, that's when we know that we have become better people because of it. We understand and acknowledge what it took to get us to where we are now. We laugh at the past because we realize how naive and dumb we were, how innocent we were to the world. We remember all the little choices that seem so unimportant today. Those choices don't compare to the way we perceive things today. Change the way you view yourself. These little life-changing decisions change the way we need to view ourselves into becoming a better version of who we see in the mirror. Who do you see?