If you are reading this, here is probably something you need to hear. The universe may have been trying to tell you that it's time to change and evolve, but you might have been avoiding the truth. So, let me be the messenger of everything you need to hear to start shaping a future where peace, joy, and growth are not distant dreams but living realities.

In life, we are created by our past—our baggage, traumas, insecurities, sadness. All of these emotions sometimes get so intertwined with our souls that when we look into the mirror, we find out that we are only made of bitterness, disappointments, betrayals, losses, and wounds. It's no surprise that we are bitter - many of us have failed, felt betrayed or dissatisfied with life's unfair circumstances. As a result, we carry the weight of anger, thinking it will protect us, but in reality, it only poisons us from within.

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Let Go of the Past to Make Room for Growth

Most of us are resentful because we don’t want to let go of the past. We wear these invisible backpacks, filled with past wounds, unspoken fears, and the unrelenting demands of a world that never seems to pause. Yet we still dare to ask why we cannot seem to change ourselves for the better while choosing the same 'bitter over better' every time.

Past is the dead weight. The past can’t change, can’t grow, can’t move. You keep dragging it forward into the present, but it’s a burden that holds you in place, locking your future away.

So, my friend, let go of the past. It was never yours to keep. The past may have shaped you but don’t let it define you - you are more than the story you once lived. To be better and have better, you need to create space for something new – so, let go of what’s dead and let something new bloom, grow and live again.

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Do you want to be better? If yes, then start facing your fears, failures, and mistakes. Ask yourself the questions like 'what do I really want?' and 'what’s holding me back?'.

Force you to look inward and recognize limiting beliefs that are stopping you from moving forward. Are you showing up as your best self? Are you making the best out of your life? If not, then why? Take a piece of paper and write these questions down. Your answers will guide you, challenge you, and ultimately lead you toward becoming a better version of yourself.

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Ask the Questions That Set You Free

To be better you need to commit to personal growth and your internal world, setting goals that stretch your limits and push you to evolve. My friend, we are all here to serve our purpose and make this world a better place even with our small pursuits of improvement - whether it’s studying, refining skills, or confronting fears.

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Vulnerability & the Power of Choice

Another important thing to become better is to learn to be vulnerable. It's not a surprise that we have walls built around us because we need to protect ourselves from pain or rejection. Embracing vulnerability is like peeling back layers of armour you've built over time and freeing your body.

Let yourself be vulnerable. Let yourself be seen and heard. It’s the key to deeper relationships, true healing, and personal growth that can only happen when you let go of the need to be perfect.

In the end, I want to talk more about the choice – the choice to be better. Being better is not easy. It requires vulnerability, courage, and sometimes, even humility, especially when it's so easy for your pains and sorrows to dictate you.

The choice to be better isn’t about erasing the pain or pretending you’ve never been hurt. It’s about claiming your power back. It’s about refusing to let the bitterness of yesterday hold you hostage in the present.

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So, the next time life hands you a wound, ask yourself: Will I choose to stay bitter, or will I choose to be better? Because this choice, the one that seems so small at the moment, is the one that will carve the path of your life.