In high school, everyone dreams of falling in love and graduating next to the love of their life. As an adult, you also dream of falling in love and marrying the love of their life. While most people don't plan on making high school relationships serious, some get caught up in the feelings and emotions of their love. The love you feel is real in either part of your life, the priorities are different.
Love is a complicated thing. In high school, most relationships don't last long. But in adult life, most of the time, you try to make those relationships last. Love is real no matter what. But there are going to be differences depending on your stage of life.
In high school, you have so many priorities of your own. Grades, sports, college prep, family, etc. Most relationships happen within the school atmosphere, making time together easier to come by. But that doesn't mean that your partner should be your number one priority. While your relationship should be a large priority, in high school, it shouldn't be the top one. Your future may or may not include your partner. And at that age, your individual future should be your top priority. And this could very well hurt or delay or relationship. But your matter first. Circumstances could happen where you both stay in the same state for college. Or even go to the same college. But you can't always count on that.
Your love for that person is undeniable. And you can certainly plan your future with them in mind. You can both apply to the same college. You can choose the same career path. You could even move to another city together. But the moment your life goals change. Or the moment you don't get into the same college. That is when you may or may not have to make a very hard decision. Your love could be strong enough to keep you too together. Or it might not.
Priorities are one of the hardest things to figure out in the young stages of life. But in high school, your priority should be your future. As hard as that may be, your future could be different from your partners.
As an adult, you still have many other priorities. However, many of your big life choices have already been made. You're either in college or in your career. You've probably moved out of mom and dad's house. So, maybe you have time in your life for a relationship.
Once you are in your twenties or thirties, you are probably in the point in your life where you want some real companionship. Once you are matured enough, you can handle two people's well-being. Once you have a relationship as an adult, you have many things to think about. Your future, your partner's future, finances, career, etc. And as adults, you begin to think about kids, house, money. And once you have your career and education figured out, you have room to plan your future with someone else. This is the point in your life where you don't want to do life alone.
For men, their early adulthood is for getting their career started, marriage, kids, etc. For women, their biological clocks are going off telling them to have kids. They also want their careers to take off, marriage, etc. And as adults, your new priority should be planning your future. Either by yourself or with someone else. Most likely, you want it to be with someone else.
Typically, in adult relationships, they last longer, they are more serious, and there is more planning for the future. As teenagers, relationships are more for fun. As adults, you more often want companionship and a long-lasting partnership. And as adults, you have the means to plan a future that is more reliable. And planning that future with your loved one... that is one of the most exciting things you will ever do.
Love is one of the most desired things on earth. It is in our nature to desire companionship. But in this day and age, love is fun. But it needs to also be realistic. Your high school partner is someone you love very much. Your adult partner you could love just as much or more. But each stage of life has its priorities. But there is one thing you always must keep in mind.
Love is one of the most beautiful things you will ever feel. It can be painful at times, even excruciating. But love will always be there. Love will always heal. Love is always coming for you. Love might hurt sometimes. Love may leave. But, one day, somehow, you will find the love you deserve.