Breakups are, unfortunately, a normal part of being a teenager. And, in the moment, it feels like the end of the world. You put your heart out to someone only to have it crushed. It feels like your heart is being ripped from your chest. Your eyes gush until the waterfall of emotion taps out for the day.
There are so many ways to cope with this kind of experience. Breakups have been a norm since the dawn of time. Many ways of dealing with it have been seen in both our lives and on TV. There is no wrong answer to dealing with a breakup. You deal with it in your own unique way. These are just a few ways of coping with heartbreak.
I hope these will help you figure out how to deal with this hard time. You got this! You'll get through this.
Many new singles just want to be left alone during this time. And that's perfectly okay. For many people, being a blanket burrito with a big bowl of ice cream is just what they need. And maybe that is the best way to cope with their emotions. Binging your favorite show alone with food might be a way to bring comfort to their aching hearts.
While overly extended isolation may turn unhealthy, a small amount of isolation is perfectly acceptable. They just want to self-soothe in their own time and space. So, bring on the ice cream and Netflix. It's the best time to be alone.
Night on the town:
Another good way to cope is to completely distract yourself. This is where your friends come in. They'll often swoop you up and take you out to do something fun. Whether it's a night out, a road trip, or even just a quick stop for ice cream. Your friends are there to make you feel better about both yourself and your decisions. They are the perfect distraction.
Going and doing something fun isn't by any means celebrating the breakup. It's just keeping your mind off the hardships of recent days. Once you can open yourself up to fun, the sooner you'll be happier with your life. Life isn't all about pain. While there will always be pain, be sure to open yourself up to fun amidst the pain.
Talk it out:
Some people need complete separation. Others, however, need that complete closure. Sometimes, it's good to go to your ex and talk things through. Not necessarily to get back together. But, maybe you left the situation angry and confused. Maybe going back and talking through what happened with them can bring closure and comfort in the situation. Once you both fully understand what happened between you two, the sooner you may feel better.
Maybe the breakup was for the best. Or maybe it was too rash of a decision. A mature conversation could bring you those answers. You won't know until you try.
Move right along:
There is no right or wrong answer to how fast you move on. Maybe the best solution for you is to get back into the dating game right away. Maybe the last relationship had major problems that you just had to get away from. And maybe you finding another person to be secure with could be the solution.
It's your life. No one can judge you for how fast or slow you move on. It's your heart and your well-being. You do what makes your heart happy. And who knows, maybe the next one you started dating two days later could be the best thing for you.
Maybe you are the type of person who doesn't need time to heal. Maybe the best thing for you is to just move along with your life. Maybe your ex isn't worth mourning over. Or maybe you just don't want to face the collision head on. Maybe just focusing on school/work will make your heart heal faster. Or maybe just forgetting your ex ever happened at all.
Whatever you need to do or not do is perfect. It's your heart and your coping style. Maybe not coping is how you cope. Maybe just moving along with your life is the best solution for you. You are young and life is still moving. Maybe for you, moving along with life instead of taking a pause is what you need.
Breakups are hard no matter what. You could have dated that person for two years or two weeks. Time doesn't mean a thing when it comes to love. Your coping style isn't like anyone else's. It is unique to who you are. Any of the above could be it for you. Or it could be something completely different. All of that is up to you.
It's your heart and your mind. All of these hardships will only make you stronger. Yes, your heart is broken. Yes, it hurt like a brick to the face. But those wounds will heal with time. All you have to do is let your heart heal in the way that best suits you.