Today's article is a little different but needs to be talked about! We will be discussing what most of us have been doing or done at least once in our lifetime! Dating in a long-distance relationship.
It sucks, I know. I'll be giving you pieces of advice from someone who USED to be in a long-distance relationship! These are just from my experiences so don't take them to heart!
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Get notified of top trending articles like this one every week! (we won't spam you)1) Don't Get Attached Too Easily
This may seem very stupid and unnecessary, but you need to guard your heart in these situations. Because most of the time when you're in a long-distance relationship, they tell you they love you and they haven't fallen for nobody like you, blah, blah, blah. The whole time, he's really with someone else on the side for fun.
And when this happens, you try to leave him or her, but you got too attached so now, you're stuck with someone who thinks cheating is okay. Being attached is okay, but there must be boundaries. Don't get too attached. It could go very badly.
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2) Get To Know THEM!
"I already know them." NO, YOU DON'T! NO, YOU DON'T! You know many long-distance relationships happen through online dating and online dating isn't always good.
Someone can fake their whole personality and their whole persona of who they want you to think that they are so they can play with your feelings or worse. You cannot trust social media nowadays, and I say this from PERSONAL EXPERIENCE! Someone can fake who they really are, so it's very important to know the REAL THEM! Make sure it's actually them because catfishing is also a very big thing now a days.
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3) Don't Fall for Them Straight Off the Bat
I don't care if you fall in love easily or not, do not fall for them so easily. Because if you fall in love then it can be pretty hard to get out of loving them. Obviously, everyone has feelings but 9 times outta 10, these long-distance relationships do not work.
They usually fall apart somewhere down the line, and you do not wanna end up heartbroken while they have already moved on to bigger and better things. It's not a good look for you. We don't lack; we transition.
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4) Leave Others Out of Your Relationship
When you have other people in the middle of your relationship, things will start to get messy. People will start trying to get involved even when they have no business getting involved in the first place. People will try and change the story; they will try and tell you lies to ruin the relationship.
This is a relationship between you and your partner, not anyone else. What you two got going on is no one's business but yours. I don't care if they are your best friends or not. Because best friends can also be jealous and try to ruin your flow too.
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5) Be Honest
Be open, be honest with one another. Honesty can get you so far without you even knowing. There shouldn't be any lies in the relationship and that goes for all relationships, long distance or not.
Without honesty, you break trust and when you break trust, it's hard to get back. If you continuously lie to your partner, that is a RED FLAG! And it could be the tiniest little lie in the world. Just don't lie!
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6) Communication is Key
We always say this, it's a go-to-line of everyone but babes when I tell you, you will get nowhere with no communication in a long-distance relationship. Like if you guys aren't fluent, then the whole relationship will fall apart so fast. Like faster than the talking stage.
Talk at least almost every day. Check up on one another. Even when you don't want to. BE IN THE RELATIONSHIP! Not out of it!
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7) Trust is Everything
When I tell you without trust, there's trust issues, that's what I mean. Like if you can't even trust your partner, why be with them? If you can't even trust them, then they aren't really needed in your life.
If you're constantly trying to figure out if they're lying about where they are or not, maybe you should rethink the relationship. Trust is built on honesty and without those two, y'all are both screwed.
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8) Keep it Romantic
You guys may be so far away from each other, but that doesn't mean you guys can't be romantic. Do ROMANTICY things! Like sending them heart emojis, corny pickup lines, compliments!
They will think about it more than you think they will! The little things count. Even when they seem stupid or weird, they COUNT! Without keeping the romance alive, you both will lose interest, and it'll just be you and your lonely thoughts once again!
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These are just pieces of advice from me. I've been in many long-distance relationships and; they suck, but they are also so cute! Do I recommend a long distance relationship?
ABSOLUTELY NOT! They hurt in the end and I am not for the endless pain. Until next time!
-Layyyy!
