In recent years, silence and love have become synonymous with each other. As long as he is present in your life, you should not expect him to say a thing. There are some fathers' love who are truly associated with silence.

The truth is the majority of fathers tend to believe that as long as they provide for their children's financial needs and other needs—excluding emotional needs—there is no need to provide anything else. The emotional needs of children are important to reaffirm their self-worth and esteem. Whether love is silence is love or not, this will reveal it.

Love equivalent to Silence (True)

The nature of parents' upbringing might affect their way of showing love. Love could be silent if it is backed up by actions. The power of actions can show if the love is just false or true.

A father who is always present giving the emotional anchor the child needs, truly loves the child. The truth about this is that when the father is there but not a talker, he rather listens to what his child has to say. A father who makes the child comfortable in talking with him, showing keen interest even if he is not saying anything, reveals something greater.

A child with such a father tends to grow up feeling confident and comfortable in himself. The fact of becoming something starts from childhood. If the child does not have such love from a father figure, the result might be different. It does not dispute the possibility of a person breaking the lack of bond they did not get.

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Love equivalent to silence (False)

Love is not silence. There is a personal observation that has been conducted of fathers who pay for the entire lifestyle of the child but are not present. The irony of this is that it will get to a point when the child would rather have nothing but emotional stability.

In school, the child will be masking the hurt with the riches he has been given by his absentee father. It is understandable if the father's work does not make it possible for such a relationship. At the same time, make the child understand the nature of your work and time. The pain the child is undergoing will not be as much as when you make them understand. Children do not only need physical care but emotional care.

Children who have been through such will be likely to have deeper emotions than all. Those who are likely to put up a mask of someone are not, suppressing who they are. They might hide their true nature and develop a mask that “fits” the crowd.

The reason why they are likely to wear such masks is fear of abandonment (which could be traced back to the absentee father). Everything a child can become starts from childhood.

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Silence is a sense of Ego and Pride.

The sub-heading is valid. This is what is called “aware absentee” fathers. The previous one we talked about could be unaware but the motive of this father is different.

In these cases, the father consciously avoids family bonding. Surprisingly, he tends to not only avoid his child but also the family. He becomes closer to his friends and acquaintances. These groups of fathers might not be ready to fulfill the emotional part of the family. Some may fulfill other aspects but neglect the family. Why they are labeled as having ego and pride is because true parents' love has no boundaries. One of the common reasons they believe that the emotional provision is only for a mother to provide for the children. Coming down to the level of a child to do what—is demeaning for them. “Children's emotional needs are not my business.” Honestly, both parents ought to provide for the needs of the children. Both of the parents contribute to the growth of the children.

The eventuality of the children might be having trust issues. The child could face fear of abandonment, and fear of having relationships of any kind. The power of having such a father could be disastrous to society. If there are twenty fathers with aware absentee behaviour, society might have several emotionally “broken” children.

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Conclusion

The myth of silence as love could be true to an extent. Silence as love could be in the way of being a protective figure, present and interactive (in his loving way while accommodating the needs of the child). The love of a father could not be limited by his job or other things.

The child needs to grow not just physically but emotionally. Also, the father should take his time to know if the children are happy. Fathers, who purposely avoid their children should be aware that the child would eventually grow older and have attributes that could make them have no or collapsing relationships.