Exploring Gen Z's Viewpoint Towards Marriage: Is It Really Worth It? What Does Marriage Look Like?

Marriage, something we all want, or at least some of us want in life.

But do you ever ask yourself, " What is marriage? What does marriage look like? Am I being introduced to marriage through my parents or grandparents?

And is it healthy? These are all valid questions. Typically, children are introduced to marriage through their parents, grandparents, or even great-grandparents. Valid and great questions. Is it worth it? We'll be diving into all those questions today. (With little pieces of advice as well.)

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Gen Z's Viewpoint On Marriage

The kids today all want to get married; they think marriage is all about the cars, the partying, the honeymoons, the great vacations, and living happily ever after in a nice house in Beverly Hills. Uhh-no. (That's just an example, not everyone's viewpoint.)

Marriage is something deeper; it means something more than just the looks and the money. Marriage is sacred; it is you and another person coming together to be one. Marriage isn't easy, and I feel everyone should know what they're coming into when they get married.

Marriage is a promise to each other that you will love and cherish each other through sickness and through health. It is a relationship that will last a lifetime, even after your children and grandchildren.

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It is not a game. Marriage is to be cherished, not played with. Many get married 4 or 5 times and say those just weren't my one.

Feel free to get married that many times if you please, but marriage isn't to be played with. Many people are just getting married to get married, and that is also not what marriage is. Marriage is a lifelong promise; you can't just marry someone and say, "Oh well, you're being rude, bye." You also have to understand and really know the person you are marrying before you marry them. That is very important. Knowing your spouse and understanding your spouse while loving your spouse leads to a successful marriage.

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Some people think marriage isn't needed or wanted, and you're just going to date until you die. But, if you find a nice and sophisticated woman who knows herself and her values, she's not going to be dating you her whole life; she will eventually want something more for herself, a step up. She will not give you husband privileges if you are not her husband.

Same for a man. If you're just out here doing your thing, not wanting marriage at some point, partying, wandering wherever, and having no respect for yourself, you will drive that man away. That man wants a woman who values and knows herself; those are the type of people who are looking for lifelong marriages.

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Again, though, these are just bits of advice!

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Is Marriage Worth It?

When there's marriage, there is sacrifice. If you are not willing to make sacrifices, then maybe marriage isn't your cup of tea just yet. No one really knows if marriage is worth it until they get married.

In my opinion, marriage is 100 percent worth it. Why? Because at the end of the day, who is going to be there for you? Love you? Grow with you? Your spouse. Other people outside of your marriage have their own lives, their own marriages, their own children, their own things going on.

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Whether marriage is worth it or not, it depends on the quality of the relationship towards one another. Scientific research indicates that marriage boosts happiness, financial stability, and health. Studies also show that people who are married tend to live longer than most.

But these benefits are tied to a healthy relationship. A poor relationship will tear you down, tire you, bore you, but a healthy one will give you love, community, and happiness.

No one knows if marriage is worth it, really. It's honestly a leap of faith, but are you willing to take that leap of faith? Are you willing to become one with another person?

To love another, to be with another? Those are questions you have to ask yourself when coming into a marriage.

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What Does Marriage Look Like?

Marriage can look like the modern married couple, it can look like biblical time marriages, or it can look like many different things. It all depends on how you grew up, what your take is on marriage in general, and what it looks like to you. To the ones that grew up in a home with no marriage in the picture at all, marriage can look like nothing; it's not needed. It all depends on your environment.

From my perspective, marriage is sacred; it's something special. Something you will only experience with one person in a lifetime. Marriage is to love, to heal, and to cherish one another.

But marriage is much deeper than that as well. When you get into a marriage, you have to keep in mind that this is the person you're going to be with for the rest of your life. And with that in mind, it's important to understand that person's personality and their perspective, all of it, will be your reality. And that is very important to know and understand.

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A healthy marriage is a marriage built on trust, love, open communication, respect for one another, and shared values. Marriage should feel like a secure base where you and your partner feel safe, heard, and respected. And in Gen Z's take today, that is not what marriage looks like. At the end of the day, you have to be there for one another because it is you and your partner against the world.

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Marriage doesn't always have to be a constant party or a great celebration. There isn't always a great and happy honeymoon. There will be times when you'll think that marriage is boring or it's just not fun.

You'll go through seasons where Marriage isn't what you thought it was. But in those times, I think that we should also see the beautiful side to marriage. Just because you're not going to a big party every week or traveling to Japan every month doesn't mean marriage isn't worth it.

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Let's make one thing clear, marriage isn't going to fix every one of your problems. If anything, your problems will increase, or it'll just be more stress added on when you realize marriage isn't going to fix your problems. But if there is one thing marriage does bring, it's a partner to help you through those problems.

What is your take on marriage? This is my personal opinion and what I think marriage looks like as a person who wishes deeply to one day get married. This is just my opinion; this is not meant to offend anyone! What's your take on marriage?