We have all seen those trending TikToks that advise romanticizing your life, school, day, etc. Well, most of these videos suggest lighting a candle or wearing clothes you enjoy. Respectfully, that's not the case.
To genuinely romanticize your life, you need to adopt a new way of thinking and embrace everything given to you. The verb 'romanticize' emphasizes enjoying life, cherishing memories, learning to love, and much more. Learning how to deal with the world around you positively, can make you see life from a unique perspective, possibly like you've never seen it before.
In this article, I'm following a piece of advice that anybody who has watched Gossip Girl likely knows. It was mostly addressed to Dan Humphrey, as he was the writer of the group. "Write what you know". I will try to keep up with this statement when writing this, so most likely what you are reading right now is a summary of my point of view on daily matters.
Look For The Light
Happiness is everywhere, even in little things.
Even after having the longest day ever, and not having any motivation to do anything, you can certainly find a spark hidden somewhere. In a hectic moment, just stop and think: "Wouldn't this be easier if I were more positive?". The answer is, yes it would be.
Living under stress is one thing, in some occasions is inevitable, but the ability to turn something dreadful into enjoyable is another. As soon as you wake up, try to be more open to things and not wake up just to do mandatory things. By the moment you start viewing your everyday life as something worth living, and you are eternally grateful for that, lots of tension will eventually back off. Happiness can furthermore originate from gratitude. Going to school some days can seem like a nightmare that came to life, but somewhere between the endless hours and boring lectures, is hidden the path to your desired future. Be grateful that every day you are one step closer to what you want to do with your life.
Stop spending countless hours in a dark room staring at your phone waiting for someone to reply. Go out and live your best life every day. Walking alone in the dark on a misty day, the crispy cool air hitting the autumn leaves... This simple 5-minute walk can have a heartwarming impact when feeling a little gloomy.
Nobody has the right to steal your spark and will for life. Not school, not a significant other, no one. Share your happiness with the world and let the universe make it up to you.
"Love Actually, Is All Around"
Everywhere you look, in every corner of the world, in every edge of the universe, you can find love. Humans are meant to love, to show affection, to devote themselves to another human being utterly. We feel the need to find someone to confide in them our darkest secrets, to rely on our gloomiest days, and to take care of our needs.
Finding what others call a soulmate, twin flame, life partner, and dozens of other words. Finding the one who is the ideal partner for us, who matches every desire and quality we need in life-long pal, is a process that happens in different timeframes for everyone.
But love is not just a romantic or [censored] feeling. Love comes in all shapes and sizes. By taking a simple stroll outside, someone can observe how love can exist in the weirdest places and forms.
Try to show people you care about them and you love them. A simple act of love can make up for someone's crappy day. By expressing love, not only do you spread love and make people around you happy, but you also gain satisfaction by doing something worthy. Everybody deserves a chance when it comes to love, a chance to be happy, to fulfill their life's purpose.
Although, not everybody expresses their love in the same way or feels the same way about love. A week ago, I saw a TikTok video that I severely related to. The video was about how every wish the girl had ever made was about love for as long as she could remember.
That's what I have been doing since I was a little kid. This is a basic characteristic of a hopeless romantic, a person who dreamed about finding true love since the beginning of time. That's not a bad quality to have, to be able to see the most out of the romantic aspect of life. Try to embrace the chance you have in being able to feel such intense feelings of love.
"You Jump I Jump Jack"
It is a quote originating from Titanic and later used as the title of a Gilmore Girls episode. It is about taking chances without taking into consideration the dangers. But in this case, this quote will be used as a metaphor for trying to live a little.
Get out of your comfort zone and try new things, even if they seem scary or potentially dangerous. Let's assume you are about to decide some sort. You are most likely to either regret not doing it or regret it after you have tried. From my point of view, it's better to fail in something by giving it a try, rather than not trying it at all.
I aspire to be full of life when I am older, and not miss out because I was too scared to live. So, live by taking risks because it's the only way to know you've tried, and then, maybe have failed. So when you're old and looking back to what you've done, you will be happy and grateful that you lived all those memories. Whether we want it or not, someday the present moments will only become distant memories and nothing more.
Be Grateful For What's Given To You
As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, life isn't a forever kind of thing. That's not cynical, just a truthful observation that sometimes escapes our thoughts. Be grateful for being able to live the way you live, for the people around you, for your health and happiness.
Many people show gratitude through religion, but even if you don't believe in a higher power, show gratitude through your everyday actions. You are not going to be the way you are forever, having the abilities you have right now in your possession. You are lucky enough to have a unique personality and to be surrounded by people who have your best interest at heart. Don't be ungrateful and full of hatred, that isn't something that will help you develop as a person. Personal growth comes from inner healing, through gratitude and self-love.
"Close Your Eyes, Take My Hand, And Now Feel"
This quote from the 2023 Barbie movie is said to Barbie when she transforms from a doll to a woman. By becoming a human being, she got the chance to feel both good and bad emotions. That shows how life isn't always pleasant and full of happiness and negative emotions don't scar you as a person.
Just because a day didn't go as planned, it doesn't have to be the end of the world. It definitely isn't. Feeling all sorts of emotions is a kind of privilege of some sort. Experiencing heartbreak, loss, happiness, love, and excitement, every single feeling shapes you as a person, it makes you unique. Feeling makes you see things differently, not just passively following your mind's instructions.
Even the cliche saying said it first: “A bad day is not a bad life.” If life is an endless row of green building blocks, a bad day would simply be a red block surrounded by a dozen different-colored others. Don't let anything take away your spark, but also embrace the pain. It legitimately makes you stronger.
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Learn To Love Yourself
It's Not Possible To Love Someone If You Don't Love Yourself First
How can you be capable of loving another human being when you are incapable of loving yourself? How can you not hurt someone if you keep hurting yourself? These are questions that lead to the fact that every strong relationship's base consists of self-respect and self-love.
To have this kind of relationship, you need to heal and find inner peace. Stop bringing yourself down, by overloading your schedule and leaving no time for resting and relaxation. Don't set impossible standards for both yourself and your significant other. When you achieve a certain level of self-esteem or self-love, you'll see a major difference in your relationships.
Try to say nice things about yourself more often, and accept the fact that you can't compare yourself with anybody else. Furthermore, it's not proper to compare partners either. Everybody handles situations differently and deals with emotional overload differently. It's okay not to feel okay.
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That's basically the life advice that saved me from lots of crying. By following the previous statements, you're more likely to see a better aspect of life, a bit more cheerful some can say. When you pursue those tasks in your everyday life, you will eventually have "romanticized" it.
Begin truly living. Don't waste your life being sad and stressed. Remove everything negative (that can be removed) from your life once and for all. At the end of the day, everything happens for a reason, even if it's not understandable from the start.